Relax, New Parents!

In today's world, perfection seems to be something we strive for in every area of our lives. But perfection in parenthood just doesn't exists — so relax!

Mom kissing smiling baby

Perfection is a myth

Before welcoming a new baby, every new mother likely envisions the "perfect life" with her newborn. The reality is parenthood is amazing — but it's also messy, exhausting and highly imperfect. So before baby arrives, try not to formulate too many ideas about what you think parenthood should look like and instead be open to rolling with the punches so you won't be devastated if your birth plan doesn't go according to plan, for example. You can make yourself crazy trying to be a "perfect parent" but instead you just try to have fun and live in the moment — as imperfect as it may be.

Don't be afraid to do it your way

Instead of being afraid of making a mistake, listening to the barrage of parenting advice from loved ones (and even random strangers) or following a specific parenting method, trust your instincts. As long as you're doing your best with baby's best intentions and safety in mind, you really can't mess up!

Laugh it off

Don't take parenthood so seriously. It's much easier to get through each phase if you are able to take it all with a grain of salt and even laugh through the stressful times. Admittedly it's much easier to laugh at those spilled-a-whole-bag-full-of-just-pumped-milk moments long after they have passed, but give it a try!

You're not alone

Regardless of what you may think when you look at other parents who seem to have it all together, we're all in the same boat when it comes to parenthood. We all have those up-with-a-crying baby-sleepless all-nighters, poopy-diaper-blow-out moments and going-to-work-with-spit-up-on-your-suit days. While parenthood may not be perfect, it's nice to know that at least you are not the only one experiencing these trying times. If you are feeling alone as new parents, seek out a new mom group so you can bond with other parents going through exactly what you are going through.

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