Cope With The Heartbreak Of A Miscarriage

Miscarriage is more common than you think. If you experience one, you’re not alone.

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What happened?

According to the American Pregnancy Association, there is not always an identified reason for a miscarriage. It is actually the most common form of pregnancy loss under 20 weeks says the organization.

Research by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) reports that somewhere between 10 and 25 percent of pregnancies will end in miscarriage. Most of these miscarriages happen within the first 13 weeks of pregnancy (the first trimester).


Most miscarriages are caused by a chromosomal abnormality but there are other factors that could play into your chances of having a miscarriage such as maternal age or trauma, excessive smoking or drug use, exposure to radiation and improper implantation of the egg into the uterine lining.

Your body may rid itself of the fetal tissue, but if not your doctor will do a procedure known as a D&C. D&C stands for dilation and curettage, a procedure that rids the body of excess tissue, helps stop bleeding and prevent infection.

Why me?

If you experience a miscarriage, don’t blame yourself. Understand that you didn’t do anything wrong and it is not your fault. Talk to your doctor about what went wrong if he can indeed identify a problem.

Reach out

Don’t suffer this heartbreak alone. Talk to your husband or the people who already knew about your pregnancy (since many miscarriages occur in that fragile first trimester, many pregnant women choose to wait to tell people until they are into the “safe zone” of the second pregnancy). Express your feelings and when you might want to try to conceive again.

Give yourself time to heal (physically and emotionally) before you start on a mission to get pregnant again. Talk to your doctor to find out when he feels it’s safe for you to start trying to conceive again.

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