When you have a new baby, the grandparents eagerly line up to meet your little bundle of joy. There are...
When you have a new baby, the grandparents eagerly line up to meet your little bundle of joy. There are pros and cons to this... Grandparent pros: They've been there and can sometimes offer good baby raising advice. Gifts, gifts, and more gifts. Oh, and did I mention the gifts! Free babysitting!!! Cute pictures - nothing is more adorable than grandparent & baby pictures. Look:
Of course with the pros comes the cons: They've been there and they think they can offer a large booklet's worth of good baby raising advice. Sadly, it's not always true. Baby raising has changed since your parents were new parents. We don't place babies on their tummy to sleep, give alcohol to teething babies, or go sans car seats. Lots of times grandparents can be stuck in the old school ways of parenting, and won't budge. Judgment will be given: There's always a judgment call that grandparents make. If you're lucky they'll judge you by thinking, "Wow, my daughter is a new mama; she'll feel things out her own way, and do just fine!" However, most of my mama friends (and me) have run into this kind of grandparent judgement from at least one parent or parent-in-law: "Wow, my daughter is a new mama, and she's got NO CLUE." Then said parent will make sure you know this with phrases like:
- You're not holding that baby right!
- That baby needs a hat.
- You're not taking him out in this weather are you?
- When I was a parent, I'd NEVER _________ (insert whatever you happen to be doing at the moment).
- Well, when I was a new parent I worked, breastfed, cleaned the house, and was still a terrific spouse - it was NO trouble at all. It was EASY!