Today we've been looking at domestic violence during pregnancy. So far we've discussed some basic facts, what intimate partner violence...
Today we've been looking at domestic violence during pregnancy. So far we've discussed some basic facts, what intimate partner violence is, and looked a ways you can assess if your relationship is abusive. For the last post on this topic today, I thought we'd look at a couple of issues that relate to pregnancy associated domestic violence. At the end of this post will be some helpful resources. There are some common misconceptions about domestic violence. One major misconception is that people often think that the violence will end if they become pregnant; after all, carrying the abuser's child must stand for something, right? The problem here is that research shows that abuse does not end when women are pregnant. In fact many studies have shown that a pregnancy can worsen the abuse. Even if your partner seems happy about a pregnancy, it's very hard for abusers to stop abusing cold turkey. Something else to consider is how this partner will treat a child, if they're already treating you so poorly. Some women think that even though their partner hurts them, that they'd never harm their own baby. This is not true. Studies show that pregnant women in an abusive relationship is associated with miscarriage, low birth weight babies, infant or fetal death, and fetal injury. Also, studies show that children born into families that thrive on domestic violence often become victims of abuse as well. If your partner does not harm your child, but does still harm you, that can be just as dangerious. Research shows that children raised seeing a parent hurt by domestic violence tend to have psychological and behavior problems as well as suffer from depression. Another misconception is that if your partner seems shameful and sorry, the abuse will stop. In many violent relationships everyone is upset when abuse happens, even the abuser, it does not mean the abuse will stop though. Especially during pregnancy it can be hard not to believe that the abuser is truly sorry, because of course you'd like two parents around for this baby, but it's safer for both you and your baby to seek support that can help you to leave the situation, then to stick around and see if the abuser is reformed. Resources for support: People you can talk to for support, advice, and help: Your midwife, doctor, a nurse at any clinic, the folks at Planned Parenthood or WIC, your best friend, a good friend, your co-worker, your parents, someone at your church, look up women's shelters in your yellow pages, the local college health center, the police, and anyone else you may think will listen. If someone tells you that you're being unreasonable or acting too upset over nothing, ignore them (I'm serious) and tell someone else. You can also contact any of the organizations below, and they will help you find reliable, safe resources locally. Not one of the organizations below will tell your partner that you called or contact your partner in anyway, they are safe and confidential. Visit the National Sexual Assault Hotline or call them at 1.800.656.HOPE The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Visit the National Domestic Violence website or give them a call at 1-800-799-SAFE. Note that your partner can see what websites you’ve been searching by looking at your computer history. If you’re worried about your partner knowing that you visited a domestic violence website then use the phone number instead.

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