Breastfeeding one baby is hard for many mamas. Breastfeeding more than one baby can be very difficult. Susan, our mama...
Breastfeeding one baby is hard for many mamas. Breastfeeding more than one baby can be very difficult. Susan, our mama of the day experienced problems with breastfeeding for a few reasons:
Susan says, "My babies were in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) for 5 1/2 weeks after they were born. They were born too early to be able to feed themselves, so breastfeeding was not an option initially. I did pump for a few weeks, but then I experienced complications from my c-section and was re-admitted to the hospital for another four days and put on medication. I was not allowed to give the triplets breast milk due to the medications I was taking. At that point, I stopped pumping and my babies had formula." Susan goes on to say, "Of course, I would have liked to have given my babies breast milk, but with high order multiples it wasn't in the cards for me. I think it's essential that mothers do what's best for them and their families as a whole and NOT feel guilty if they choose not to breast feed."
The last sentence is key. I'm glad Susan said that because lately while visiting mama and baby forums I've seen some subtle and some not so subtle forms of harassment when it comes to mamas who aren't breastfeeding and it's really starting to bother me. A few (not all) breastfeeding mamas seem to take it upon themselves to tell mamas who aren't breastfeeding that they're endangering their baby's life and that they can't just stand by and watch poor babies suffer. Some of these breastfeeding mamas write that they will continue to harass a non-breastfeeding mama until she complies with breastfeeding. And yes, I have actually seen it put this way on mama forums. I've read statements like this, "I will continue to harass another mom until she breastfeeds. I can't just stand by and watch babies die." Holy. These are probably the same mamas who lament and rage each time a breastfeeding mama is harassed. Which I do as well, but then I'm not out there shooting down non-breastfeeding mamas. The problem with this tactic (besides being obnoxious) is that whether you're being harassed FOR breastfeeding or FOR NOT breastfeeding harassment is harassment. You can't say that it's horrible to be kicked out of an establishment for breastfeeding and then turn around and act condescending and rude to another mama because the best decision for her and her family is to not breastfeed. Remember the post about the woman kicked out of a mama cafe because she gave her baby a bottle? I don't think I'd been that mad in a long time. If you want to know all my thoughts about this go back and read that post. If you're a mama determined to harass other mamas than you aren't a mama who rocks at all. Real support means supporting mama freedom of choice ladies. Whew, sorry to rage this post but this has been bugging me for a while now. I'd really love to see mamas on forums support each other in all of our differences. On the flip side: Now that said, I'll be back in the next post with some resources that can help you breastfeed multiples. In many cases it is possible to successfully breastfeed multiples. Have you been bugged by other mamas for the choices you make? If you want to cheer yourself up after my rant visit the cheerful blog that Susan writes, Disney Families & More or one of her other great reads; Brandcurve or Marketing Blurb.

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