Bond With Baby During Pregnancy

If you're not instantly connected with your baby, don't fret. Find small ways to bond during the course of your pregnancy.

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You're not alone

"Many women experience this disconnect from Baby while he's in the womb."

Don't beat yourself up if you don't feel instantly connected to Baby upon finding out you're pregnant or even further along in your pregnancy. You may not feel a bond with Baby during any point during pregnancy — and that's okay. Many women experience this disconnect from Baby while he's in the womb, so know that you are not the only one experiencing this.

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Rest assured that the bonding time will come when it's most important. During childbirth, your brain releases hormones such as oxytocin, that induces a natural, unconscious bonding with your newborn baby.

Talk to Baby... he can hear you!

Babies can begin to recognize and even respond to (via movement such as kicking) the sound of your voice at about 6 months of gestation. So speak up! If you're unsure of what to say to your unborn baby, simply start by talking aloud about the things going on around you or that you are doing. I began speaking to my unborn baby on my way to work about things I saw along the way, the music I chose to listen to during our ride, why I liked it and so on. Soon, it became quite natural for me to chat with my little bump and it got easier to talk about more personal things such as how his daddy and I met and so on. If talking to your baby-on-the-way still seems foreign to you, read baby books or sing lullabies.

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"Mothers' wombs contain a chemical that protects [babies] from receiving mothers' stress."

Try not to stress out about not bonding with your baby during pregnancy as your emotional state could impact him. Researchers at the University of Edinburgh determined through a study that babies' brains, as well as the mothers' wombs, contain a chemical that protects them from receiving mothers' stress. However, they also discovered that some women lack this chemical and that their stress, when not deactivated by this enzyme, can cause "children with a low birth weight who have altered stress responses and depression," according to Edinburgh University researcher Professor Jonathan Seckl.

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Enjoy pampering together

Prenatal massage is a wonderful way to pamper your pregnant self and help you relax. It can also help you bond with Baby as this an experience designed especially for expectant mothers.

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