Every dad needs support, encouragement, information, confidence and tools to help him be as involved as he possibly can with his new family. Our fatherhood expert, Armin Brott, author of The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-Be and The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year, has advice for your growing family!
Armin Brott

Dear MrDad: Every expectant couple I know is taking a Lamaze classes. Is that really necessary?

Armin answers: One of the advantages of taking a childbirth preparation class is that it'll give you and your wife the opportunity to ask questions about the pregnancy in a more relaxed setting than her doctor's office. You'll also get a chance to hang out with other expecting couples and listen to the women swap stories about how much weight they've gained, how much their joints hurt, how many times they get up to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.

Seriously, though, most childbirth classes operate on the belief that the more you learn about pregnancy and birth from exercise and nutrition to the difference between an epidural and a spinal the more in control you'll feel and the less you'll have to fear.

Also, be careful: People have a tendency to use the word "Lamaze" as a synonym for "childbirth preparation class." But Lamaze is really only one of a number of very different approaches to dealing with labor and the pain associated with it. Here's a little background on three of the most common approaches:

  • The Lamaze method is based on the idea that a pregnant woman can overcome her pain which is the way her body reacts to being in labor by focusing on something else, usually her own breathing. One major goal is to help woman achieve drug-free labors and deliveries but Lamaze also tries to give expectant parents as much information as they can to help them make the most informed decisions possible.

  • The Bradley method also emphasizes educating and preparing expectant couples. They also focus on exercise and nutrition. But instead of trying to take the woman's attention from her pain, the Bradley folks encourage her to experience it fully: groaning, screaming, whatever she feels like. Bradley is the method that introduced the husband/coach and includes dads far more than any of the others.

  • The Leboyer method puts its focus much more on the baby than on the mother-to-be. Leboyer maintains that the bright lights and high noise levels usually found in most hospital delivery rooms are quite stressful and upsetting for a newborn. For that reason, Leboyer babies are generally born in quiet, darkened rooms, often with mom fully or partially submerged in warm water.

    Classes typically last five to nine weeks and usually run about $100 to $200. Most are offered either privately or through local hospitals so check with your wife's doctor or the maternity ward for a referral. Whichever approach you and your wife pick, get going on it as soon as you can. What you'll learn will do a lot to make the rest of the pregnancy calmer and less stressful for both of you. PregnancyAndBaby.com

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