Dear Just Add Baby: I'm 32 weeks along with my first baby, and we just moved to a new town a year ago. I guess we don't have many friends because so far, nobody has offered to throw us a baby shower. I was wondering if we could do it ourselves.
Andi: Every etiquette book we consulted on this matter says no -- it's "simply not done." In fact, mothers, sisters and other family members technically aren't supposed to have a shower for you, either.
Penelope: I don't know exactly why you're not permitted to throw your own party to celebrate an impending birth -- I mean, you can throw your own birthday party or graduation gala?
Andi: Well, even if the rule is old fashioned, there it is. Of course, you can take it or leave it.
Penelope: As I see it, if you had friends who wouldn't attend because it wasn't proper social etiquette -- well, I'd wonder what sort of friends those are.
Andi: Assuming you do want to do this properly, you can't have your own shower. Sorry. But that's not to say you can't have a nice little "meet the baby" party or a naming ceremony shortly after he or she has arrived.
Penelope: Very true -- and everyone will be dying to get a little look-see at this fabulous creature you produced. And since they're unlikely to come empty-handed?
Andi: That makes the post-baby party a win-win for everyone!