The topic of parenting styles is on the editorial calendar this month over at SheKnows Parenting, and for good reason....

The topic of parenting styles is on the editorial calendar this month over at SheKnows Parenting, and for good reason. Each of our individual parenting techniques are a "parenting style," even if that style isn't technically recognized and even if our parenting techniques are all over the board (as mine sometimes are). Do you know your parenting style? Or what you think your parenting style will be once you have your baby? I wrote an article about discussing your parenting style with your partner a few days ago and one thing that Dr. Pruett said (he's an author and professor of child psychiatry who I interviewed for the article) really stood out to me:
Most parents spend a lot more time choosing the wallpaper for the nursery than they do discussing issues relating to their children.
I think that is very true. Well, not quite. We're more "paint" than "wallpaper" people, so our discussions revolved around paint color. In all seriousness though, my husband and I didn't really have many discussions about parenting style. I mean, we did talk some. We adopted and so we underwent a home study process wherein we touched on a few key areas, such as spanking (no spanking in our house), but nothing too in depth. Fortunately for us -- fortunate because we didn't have many in-depth conversations ahead of time -- my husband and I blended rather seamlessly. But then again, maybe that's not too difficult when you don't have a defined parenting style in mind. I knew I wanted to practice some attachment parenting because of our children's previous circumstances (living in orphanages), but I hadn't considered much else. What I wanted was to be like my mom, who was and still is a great mom. How's that for a parenting style? My momma! And my husband had a long list of parenting "techniques" he didn't want to use, based on his childhood. Once we had our children, we did try some of the attachment parenting style techniques, but didn't become too hung up on anything, which is key for any parenting style, in my opinion. Co-sleeping didn't work out, but babywearing was okay. We didn't let our children cry-it-out. Through all of this, we kept open minds and open communication. Dr. Pruett made a very good point: It's okay to have different parenting styles. There's nothing wrong with that at all! But discussing your parenting style is key and supporting each other is important. If you are expecting or a new parent, talk about it! While you may find that your parenting beliefs and principles fit one style, you might also find that they don't. Either is just fine. As with most things in parenting and relationships, open communication is key! How about you? Have you and your spouse, partner or significant other (if you're co-parenting) talked about your parenting style? Do you plan to?

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