Jennifer Berman, MD
My wife and I had a healthy child five months ago, and my wife and I are becoming somewhat frustrated at the lack of excitement or interest in sex. I find my wife extremely attractive and I am sensitive to the changes that she has experienced, but I miss the strong desire intimately that she had for me.
The expert answers:
A slow-down or even complete cessation of libido is a normal part of the postpartum experience, and is really to be expected. As a woman's hormones plummet after pregnancy, this directly lowers her interest in sex. It may, in fact, take nine months to one year for a return to the pre-pregnancy hormonal status.
In non-pregnant patients, and those not looking to conceive in the near future, I would suggest hormone supplementation to inspire a sense of sexual excitement. However, it's not a good idea to begin any kind of hormone supplementation or really any kind of medication following childbirth due to the incorporation of those chemicals into the breast milk. Your wife needs the higher libido, not your baby!
It would be a good idea to have your wife's sex hormone levels checked just to see where she is, and if there are non-hormonal issues at play. Once she is no longer breast-feeding, she may be a candidate for hormone supplementation.