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Melissa Leonard

Your question:
Two people have asked me if my pregnancy is planned. I guess it's because my boyfriend and I are not married (although we're very committed to each other). The real truth is that it was a surprise, but a happy surprise. I just lied to the people who asked and told them yes it was planned. Is that the best thing to do?

The expert answers:
Isn't it funny how some people feel it is their god-given right to know all the facts, especially when it comes to pregnancy? It is absolutely none of anyone's business as to whether a pregnancy is planned or not. Do those nosy individuals expect you to announce your pregnancy to everyone in this way, "Guess what, I am pregnant and in case you were curious, it was totally unplanned, isn't that a hoot!" Of course not, but people are people and indiscretion runs rampant.

I would certainly not feel pressured to tell these people that your pregnancy was not planned (unless you want to). I would simply say, "We are absolutely thrilled about it!" or "We were so excited when we found out we were going to be parents!" and leave it at that. If a person is brazen enough to ask such a pointed question, they are certainly capable of dealing with your answer, even if they don't get the information that they are prying for. At least it is not as bad as the "When did you conceive?" question. PregnancyAndBaby.com

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